How to Make Sure You Don't "Go Limp" On Valentine's Day

Author: Billy Storm

All men know the struggle of having pressure to perform, both in the bedroom and out. 

A professional athlete is most likely to choke when it’s the end of the game, ten seconds left on the clock, tied score, and the whole world watching. 

Luckily, you will never face that exact pressure in the bedroom. But it can sure feel that way sometimes. 

As we get older, erections start becoming less reliable. This is because of body changes, testosterone decline, added stressors, and an increasing amount of estrogenic material in our air, food, and water. (And if it makes you feel any better, Gen-Z is having a hell of a time with porn-induced erectile dysfunction. So be glad you were born a few decades earlier!). 

That all being said, you are far more likely to have an erection fail when it counts. For a lot of men, Valentine’s Day is one of those days. 

For one thing, it’s supposed to be a super romantic holiday where you celebrate your relationship and affection. Ideally, it culminates with some amazing, passionate lovemaking that reminds both of you why you jumped into this commitment in the first place. 

And it can feel kind of incomplete if you have a really nice dinner out, share some gifts & heartfelt cards… and then your hardware just won’t cooperate in the bedroom. 

1) Get the Details Right for At Least One Week 

I’m half-tempted to leave this section out, because I don’t want to add a laundry list of things for you to worry about as Valentine’s Day approaches. V-Day isn’t an exam you cram for, and treating it that way will often add stress that negates all the benefits of what I’m about to share. 

That being said, there are a few guidelines that you can gently follow to increase your chances of getting super-hard. 

Even doing this for a week will make a difference. If you make this an ongoing lifestyle choice, you’ll find that your erections continue to get better naturally, while every other aspect of your health improves as well. 

First, make sleep a priority. The more well-rested you are, the more everything else tends to come together. 

Next, limit alcohol. It’s fine, of course, to have a few drinks on Valentine’s Day, as long as you don’t overdo it. And a drink with friends on Tuesday won’t kill you. But if you have a daily 2-beer habit or enjoy a bunch of drinks while watching football, then take this week off. This is a time for extra moderation. 

And while you’re at it, skip the nachos during that football game as well. Avoid any food that obviously looks artery-clogging. You don’t need to avoid red meat or fat. In fact, many men report that red meat and high-fat natural foods like avocado make them feel a lot more potent in this area. But avoid fast food, fried foods, junk food, etc. If you look at it and it’s obviously junk, just skip it this week. 

Lastly, get some exercise. Really, anything will help. Running, jogging, weights, yoga, and anything else you can think of. 

The key is blood flow. Don’t eat foods that obviously clog up your veins, and do things that keep blood flowing through your veins. 

Basically, just do what is obviously healthy for 7 days, and skip what’s obviously not healthy for that period. Do you think you can manage that? 

If not, it’s ok! Just keep reading because there’s some easier stuff ahead. 

2) Do or Do Not - There Is No Try 

In a deleted scene from The Empire Strikes Back, Yoda’s famous quote was revealed to be about Luke’s private shame about erectile dysfunction. 

Actually, not really. But the quote still fits. 

“Do or Do Not - There is No Try,” in this case, simply means that: 

• It’s ok if you have sex 

• It’s ok if you don’t have sex 

• But don't struggle about it. 

Erections are one of those things in life that tend to hide when you need them the most. If you stop needing them, then they will often show up at the right time. 

This is easier said than done, of course. 

And a lot has to do with the woman. A lot depends on how she is in her attitude and patience. Above all, it depends on her level of understanding that a delayed, short-lived, or non-existent erection does not imply anything about how you feel about her or the relationship. 

Sometimes the hardest, largest erection sprouts in seconds… simply from hearing, “I’m just having fun rolling around naked with you, babe. I’m good either way.” 

Now, you may have a lover who intuitively understands all of this. Or you may have someone whose insecurity leads her to say the absolute wrong thing when you are trying to get hard. You might even be with a woman who’s kinda mean about the whole thing. 

That’s why it’s often important to have a conversation ahead of time. Even a short line like “It’s been a stressful week, so I might be a little out of commission on Saturday,” can go a long way. 

Most likely, she’ll understand and assume that full penetration will happen another night (which ironically makes it more likely it will happen on the night you said it wouldn’t). 

And if she’s not supportive… then sorry, buddy. An unsupportive woman will kill almost any erectile solution. You will have to have more and more of these uncomfortable conversations until she’s on your team. But it’s more than worth it. 

Bottom line: take the pressure off. 

3) Use a Cheat Code 

Remember when I said an unsupportive woman will kill almost any erectile solution? I really did mean “almost.” 

Because some cheat codes seem to work like magic… regardless of your health, regardless of your lifestyle, and regardless of what any lady is saying to you at gametime. 

This cheat code is simply popping a pill that’s proven to make your wang cooperate. 

Sildendafil (Viagra) and Talaldafil (Cialis) are the most famous for this. And they work. 

In fact, many men find themselves wondering “WHY did I wait so long to try these?” They work fast, and side effects are often not even noticeable. In fact, these drugs are so generally well-received that they’re now ridiculously easy to get a prescription for, often without even talking with a doctor. 

Now, of course you usually SHOULD talk to a doctor before taking any new medication. There are plenty of health conditions, and other medications, that don't swim well with these two drugs. But generally, people have a pretty easy time. 

Of the two, Sildenafil is best known for being the “Emergency” drug for getting hard. You can pop a pill on your way home from Valentine’s Day dinner, and generally be able to rock your woman by the time you hit the sheets. 

Talaldafil takes a little more time to activate, but often lets you enjoy sex again and again for the next day or two, at a very strong hardness. This is often why it’s called the “Weekend Pill”. And for Valentine’s Day, you have a literal appointment for gametime, so you can totally plan ahead. 

Each drug has a different “feel” to it, and you may find you enjoy sex and orgasming more with one vs. the other. 

Now some people like avoiding pharmaceutical drugs, and choose herbal tablets as another option. These formulations often include ingredients like Horny Goat Weed, Damiana, Catuaba Bark, Saw Palmetto, and more. 

These herbs can work great, and are definitely a bit closer to nature. The caveat is that they usually take time to build up enough in your system. That means sometimes taking a capsule every day for 2-3 weeks. Some men feel the effects within days, but you won’t know if that’s you until you try. 

Silandefil and Taladafil, however, are things you can pop the day of (or sometimes 30 minutes before), and then ignore the rest of the week. Some men have a daily regimen, but many enjoy them on an as-needed basis. 

So why not have the best of all worlds? 

• Lead a healthy, balanced lifestyle (even if you only have one week before your so-called “big day.”). 

• Make sure your lover is on your team, and drop expectations (including your own) as much as possible. 

• Have your “cheat code” bottle ready to go, so you can rest assured you’re set up for the night. Sometimes, even just knowing you have the pills nearby can act like Dumbo’s magic feather, and take all the stress away, so you can get hard naturally. 

And always remember, Valentine’s Day is about celebrating your partner and your relationship. Any other fireworks are just fun that you can do any other day. 

About the Author: Billy Storm is a fitness researcher and creator of the Body of Brutality training system. Storm has spent years studying muscle growth, physiology, and the psychological impacts of different body types across cultures. His work focuses on unconventional approaches to building strength and presence, including research into nutrition's effects on hormone levels and specialized training techniques.